There are so many ways in which you can make lemonade, but many won’t find it sweet enough. When life gives you lemons, as it probably has these last few years, do your best to stand your ground. Here’s how.
Ignore The Idea of Comparison
How many times have you heard that you should compare to someone who “has it worse”. While we understand that this serves to show you how grateful you should be, we can’t support this type of mood booster.
There will always be someone who has it worse than you.
It’s a fact.
It’s also a fact that there’ll be people who have it way better.
Now, if you compare yourself to those “below”, you can easily grow a false sense of pride. You might subconsciously place yourself on top of those who suffer more and negatively feed your ego.
On the other hand, continuous comparison to those who have a better life will pull you into depression. Just take a look at what social media has done to people. Flashy photos of (mostly) fake lives made everyone want to achieve a goal that probably can’t be achieved – unless you have a wealthy family.
Many won’t have a Lambo. Many won’t have a mansion. Many won’t have children. No matter how much they want to. That’s why the idea of comparison takes away the only thing you have — a strong focus on the current moment.
It shifts your vision towards the worse or the best, while you successfully ignore what’s going on in YOUR LIFE, both physically and mentally.
Work on Validating Emotions
If you are ready to change and improve your life, stop looking at others and turn towards yourself. There, validating your emotions is essential for positive survival. We say positive survival because there can also be a negative one.
You can either select to see the positive side or choose the negative one. When life gives you lemons, the first thing that you must do is validate your emotions. Quote for explanation:
“Self-validation is accepting your own internal experience, your thoughts, and your feelings. Self-validation doesn’t mean that you believe your thoughts or think your feelings are justified. There are many times that you will have thoughts that surprise you or that don’t reflect your values or what you know is true. You will also have feelings that you know aren’t justified. If you fight the thoughts and feelings or judge yourself for having them, then you increase your emotional upset.”
When Life Gives You Lemons, Focus on Yourself
You are the most important person in your life.
Whatever you’re going through will eventually pass, and what you must do is focus on the moment. There are many ways to live in the moment:
- Spending time with loved ones
- Enjoying solitude
- Driving around
- Listening to music
The world is sometimes hard, but when life gives you lemons it’s up to you to use what you can. The only thing you can control is how you feel regarding people and events around you. That’s why you should remain strong enough, focus on yourself, and validate your emotions.